The walls people put up
What a horrible feeling to have been hurt by someone we cared about. How ironic that we also end up hurting the people we love the most. It’s ridiculous how we can betray the ones who give us the most amount of attention and trust. It’s almost like that phrase “the wall” people put up as a defense mechanism. They say they want to open up and reciprocate but they don’t because,”It’s hard”. They are weak and emotionally damaged people. These types of human beings have something much more than a wall.
Walls can be broken but barriers can’t. That depends solely on the human being that puts them up. No matter how hard you try, no matter what you do – ALL – absolutely all your efforts will be in vain. You can show them love, pamper them gifts, shower them with your time, energy your friends, your family, but not even your money is enough if you’re not the one. You’re not what they are looking for and because they are cowards they will not be honest with you. You are not the correct person for them. As the door to their heart is locked, they will not treat you right. You’re not the correct key and you never will be.
You never wasted time
After having lost someone special we used to know, we often contemplate for days on end. We ask ourselves if we truly did our best, where did we fail, what happened to you that caused this, and count the list of things back from square one. Replaying the memories in your mind over, over and over again. Things don’t stop running around in your mind. Luckily, if you’ve distracted yourself with eating healthy, focusing on work, studying harder, watching more movies and reading books – distracting yourself with positive exercises but then again – it happens. You recall those scenes and then it starts up that vicious cycle. You’re just feeding yourself that negative energy that will never allow you to move on in life. How are you going to grasps the present and be prepared for the future if you cannot control your emotions of what’s happened in the past?
How are you? I’m fine. Being fine is a decision.
It’s a normal aspect of the human mind to keep remembering those moments and getting lost in them before snapping back to reality. The more you think about it, the worse you’ll become. But then why do you get to lay on your bed reflecting and feeling disappointed in their behavior while they don’t? It’s simple and completely unfair but evil people don’t care. This is why it’s vital to channel your anger and disappointment through positive exercises or activities to help reduce the weight of your stress. Relax, what happened has already happened. Shit happens. Things happen for a reason. You’re still in one piece, a little torn from the outcome but you are fine. The pain? Please stop. Who is in control here? Them or you? Who has control of your happiness? You do!
What has gotten you so worried about? You spent so many years with someone only for them to show you their true colors. So much time spent with the wrong person. Now neither of you talk anymore. It has become someone you used to know. They say that the remedy to forget someone is to erase them completely from your mind by believing you’ve never met them once. You’ve never spoken to them or even know their name. They are now a ghost amongst everyone else.
Laying in bed for a long time. Staring at the ceiling. Wondering about what they’re doing, giving them power and you’re here feeling sorry for yourself. Sulking like nothing’s going to get better. Nothing’s ever going to change. You’re absolutely right. NOTHING will ever change if you continue to maintain that negative perspective on life. Time to make the change! It’s time to switch! 🙌
Feelings follow thoughts
You are in control of yourself, of your actions and thoughts. This is your life, not theirs! They were a part of it for a season but now that has passed. If you’re going to try to retain the moments then try to hold on to happy memories of what you both once were. What shall be will be. In the end if you have to leave someone, let them go one way and you go the other. There’s no reason to continue walking in the same path together anymore. They’ll be fine without you, that’s what they’ve decided and you’ll be perfectly fine as well. Focus on yourself for once, on your own happiness, your future, your feelings. What really matters right now is this moment. Right here, right now in making a simple decision to let it all go. All of it. Just let it flow out of you.
There’s no point in waiting any longer for someone toxic who doesn’t want to see you, doesn’t want to talk to you, doesn’t want to call you, doesn’t even care about communicating the simplest things like what’re they’re doing, who they are with or what’s going on in their life. But if they think you’re suffocating them because you’re trying to help them open up, to give them attention and love If then why are you doing to be with someone who doesn’t love you back? Who isn’t honest with you? Who doesn’t respect you? Why would you want to keep torturing yourself by focusing your energy on a rock?
You know you deserve better. You need to love yourself before loving someone else and if you are loving someone else more than you love yourself than that is a clear signal to pay attention: that’s not the person you need to be with.
Feelings don’t walk away. People do.
If you love someone and they don’t love you back, you can’t do absolutely anything about it. You really cannot. You have no control over their decisions, only yours. If you result to violence you’ll just stoop down to an even lower level possibly facing serious consequences. They are not worth the effort. What they did to you was a horrible thing. I’m not saying that it wasn’t. What I am saying is that they will do whatever they want to do to even if that means hurting others to seek their own benefit. They will lie to you, they will betray you, they’ll keep secrets away from you, doing unspeakable things behind your back.
The moment you catch them lying just do what’s best and walk away. Let them get lost on their own by being with the same type of people! Let them only find instant gratification, jumping from one person to the next never being able to be unstable. The sad truth is they think they’ll be with someone who loves them but in return they will be used again, and again by different people because that’s what their existence was meant for: just practice. Those same people will hurt each other and they deserve to be together. Rats only spend time with other rats. You’re not one so it’s time to stop hanging around with people who live in the gutter. Do what’s right for yourself! No one else matters right now.
In front of the TV for hours binge watching series. Eating and sleeping all day. You can continue to do that. It’s fine to give yourself a week or two but then afterwards you know what? Get up! Get out there! You’re not going to spend the rest of your life in your room feeling pathetic are you? You can’t do that to yourself. Things will get better. They always will. 😌☺️
It’s not a mistake to fall down but it’s a sin not to get back up.
Breathing in and out
Meditation really is an important solution to resolving the majority of the problems we face daily. It helps us ease the mind, clear out thoughts. It’s difficult to achieve by being surrounded by phones and computers all the time. For a moment put all the technology away to sit and bathe under the sunlight. Feel the crisp wind blow before you. Look at all what nature has to offer. Get lost in the beauty of being alive, of being able to reflect upon our past endeavors.
We’re a special species capable of developing our emotional intelligence by seeking further enlightenment that illuminates the path we walk on daily. That same path where at one point you weren’t even advancing – just stuck in the middle. Hasn’t all this experience made you stronger? It has, hasn’t it? The cliché life lesson,”What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”, get’s passed on through generations without ever having any significance until it happens to you.
Breathe in and out. Remember to take long deep breathes to calm yourself down. You can control your feelings, you’re in charge. You’re here with me right now and everything’s ok. No one is going to hurt you. This is one of the points in life where you’ll look back and say,”That was the start of my rise to where I am now”.
Reflect upon yourself
It’s been a while since you’ve last spoken. Feels like time goes by for days. Visualize how to objectively measure time in seconds, minutes, hours, days, months, years, decades or centuries. Each day is divided into morning, afternoon and night, while one year is separated by the four seasons spring, summer, fall and winter. There is also the life of a living breathing being, which is measured from birth to death. You can perceive time with the present as a starting point, see what came before, and as the past and future. Although any moment may have only lasted a fragment of a second in time, when you stop to remember, it appears to have lasted for a large amount of time. Moreover, there is a misconception of time as something linear that does not allow for any return while it can also be perceived as a circular transmigration of the soul. Time can also be used as a medicine able to cure a broken heart from depression. Time passes, people move, like a rivers flow, it never ends. A childish mind will turn to noble ambition, young love will become deep affection.
Time in reality is actually a highly varied thing. You can move through time, but time itself is immovable. Real currency is not money since that’s what’s made to be spent. Time is the only thing you cannot get back because it’s lent. It does not stop for anything. Time consumes all things but time moves on. You should too.